Narcissism: If You Stay With A Narcissist

If you stay. WOW!

Good luck?

It’s literally the worst.

What I can say is to choose or have to stay in a relationship (children, financial reasons, religion, etc.) like this takes a lot of fucking balls. A lot. It’s not a “relationship” for the faint of heart. Quite frankly, it isn’t a real relationship. It’s a relationship of one, and you just get to participate.

On top of all of this shit mountain, some people choose to have children with a narcissist. And we know that having a narcissistic parent lends to a child becoming narcissistic. We know that the non-narcissistic parent usually has to do all the parenting ALONE. Among the many other everyday worries you have as a parent, the parent in the narcissistic relationship may have concerns about finances (money disappearing), drug & alcohol abuse, infidelity. Add to that the stress, anxiety, self-doubt, etc. that comes from the massive amounts of gaslighting. It’s a fucking roller coaster, and it’s zero fun.

For some, it’s not a choice to stay. For some, it is. Either way, no judgment. Next week will be Part II, and we’ll discuss tools to help you if you stay.

By heartfarter

Ashley Kelly-Holden is an personal essay writer. Her notably published essay, "You Want Me To Do What?" was the launching point for her voice. Her essays highlight her deep and hilarious observations on her relationships and the lessons she has "learned" from them. Her hopes in writing are to "get it all out" and to "help others on her path feel less alone." Ashley lives in Los Angeles with her husband and daughter. Instagram: @heartfarter